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Wednesday, June 15, 2011

STRESS.....

A young lady confidently walked around the room while leading a program explaining stress management to an audience, with a glass of water raised in one hand.  Everyone "knew" that she was going to ask the ultimate question, "half empty or half full?"  She fooled them all!  "How heavy is this glass of water?," she inquired with a smile.

Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.

She replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter.  It depends on how long I hold it.  If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem.  If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm.  If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call an ambulance.  In each case it's the same weight; but the longer I hold it, the 'heavier' it becomes."  She continued, "and that's the way it is with stress.  If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as a burden becomes increasingly 'heavy,' we won't be able to continue on."

"As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again.  When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the burden -- holding stress longer and better each time this approach is practiced.  So, as early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down.  Don't carry them through the evening and into the night . . . pick them up tomorrow.

Whatever burdens you're carrying now, let them down for a moment.  Relax, pick them up later, after you've rested.  Life is short.  Enjoy it and the fact that you've now 'conquered' that stress!"

  1.  Accept the fact that some days you're the pigeon, 
       and some days you're the statue!

  2.  Always keep your words soft and sweet, 
       just in case you have to eat them.

  3.  Always read stuff that will make you look good 
       if you die in the middle of it.

  4.  Drive carefully.  It's not only cars that can be 
       recalled by their Maker.

  5.  If you can't be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.

  6.  If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again,
       it probably was worth it.

  7.  It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply 
       to serve as a warning to others.

  8.  Never buy a car you can't push.

  9.  Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time; 
       then you'd be left without a leg to stand on.

10.  Nobody cares if you can't dance well.  
       Just get up and dance.

11.  Since it's the early worm that 
       gets eaten by the bird, 
       sleep late.

12.  It’s the second mouse who gets the cheese.

13.  When everything's coming your way, 
       you're in the wrong lane.

14.  Birthdays are good for you. 
       The more you have, the longer you live.

15.  You may be only one person in the world, 
       but you may also be the world to one person.

16.  Some mistakes are too much fun to make only once.

17.  We could learn a lot from crayons. 
       Some are sharp, some are pretty, and some are dull.  
       Some have weird names, and all are different colors.
       But they all have to live in the same box.

18.  A truly happy person is one who 
       can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

19.  Have an awesome day, 
       and know that someone has thought about you today.

20.  It was I, your friend!

Thursday, June 9, 2011

.......BLAH BLAH BLAH........

HELLO ALL! I HAVE AN ISSUE THAT HAS BEEN BUGGING ME LIKE A FLEA ON A DOGS BEHIND. ALL THIS CRAP WITH ALL THESE CHILD MOLESTERS AND RAPISTS AND MURDERERS PISSES ME OFF! AS A WOMAN WHO HAS BEEN MOLESTED (AND THEN SOME) AS A CHILD THIS TERRIFIES ME. 
  IF YOU HAVE EVER BEEN "MESSED" WITH YOU WILL KNOW WHERE I AM COMING FROM IN THIS BLOG. IF YOU HAVEN'T PLEASE FEEL FREE TO READ, BUT IF YOU GET MAD YOU ARE GOING TO JUST HAVE TO GET OVER YOURSELF. I WILL SAY IT AGAIN FOR ANYONE WHO TAKES THIS PERSONALLY. FIRST IF THIS BLOG PERSONALLY OFFENDS YOU, MAYBE YOU NEED TO GET CHECKED, AND SECOND IF YOU TAKE OFFENSE FROM THIS PLEASE REMOVE ME FROM YOUR FRIENDS LIST/ LIFE. BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH YOU. K THANKS 
NOW THAT IS OUT OF THE WAY I CAN FEEL FREE TO CONTINUE.....


     WHEN I WAS NINE YEARS OLD MY GRANDMOTHERS BF DECIDED HE WAS GOING TO DO SOME AWFUL THINGS TO ME. I'M NOT GOING TO BE EXPLICIT BUT LETS JUST SAY IT MESSED ME UP. ANY WHO... IT WAS VERY TRAUMATIZING FOR ME AS A CHILD! AS I HAVE ALWAYS SAID, WHEN SOMEONE MESSES WITH A CHILD THEY DON'T SEEM TO UNDERSTAND THAT YOU ARE ALSO CAUSING THEM TO LOSE THEIR INNOCENCE! SERIOUSLY. AT THE AGE OF NINE I KNEW WHAT BOYS HAD AND I KNEW WHAT I HAD BUT THAT WAS ABOUT IT. IMAGINE A NINE YEAR OLD CHILD HAVING TO GO THROUGH HER FIRST PAP SMEAR, OR HAVING TO EXPLAIN TO SEVERAL PEOPLE OVER AND OVER AGAIN WHERE THIS MAN TOUCHED OR HOW HE TOUCHED HER AND WHEN....ITS HORRIBLE. I SHOULD HAVE NEVER HAD THAT HAPPEN TO ME, AND NEITHER SHOULD ANY OTHER CHILD.  
OK SO PLEASE TELL ME HOW THESE PEOPLE CAN STILL WALK THE STREETS, GET JOBS, AND GO ON LIVING SUCH WONDERFUL LIVES? WHEN PEOPLE LIKE MYSELF HAVE THIS HAUNTING REMINDER OF WHAT HAPPENED TO THEM. THIS IS SOMETHING I HAVE TO CARRY AROUND ON MY BACK EVERY DAY! 
THESE PEOPLE WHO DO THIS THINGS TO CHILDREN, SHOULD HAVE THE SAME THINGS DONE TO THEM! IF YOU RAPE A CHILD YOU SHOULD BE TIED DOWN, AND RAPED BY A WOODEN BROOM STICK WITH NO LUBE. IF YOU FEEL THE NEED TO DROWN YOUR BABIES AND KILL THEM, WELL MAYBE WE NEED TO TIE YOU DOWN IN A CAR AND SEND YOU IN THE RIVER TO SEE HOW YOU LIKE IT!!! SERIOUSLY GUYS LETS IMPLEMENT THE "YOU GET WHAT YOU GIVE" LAW.....  
THESE PEOPLE MAKE ME SICK. THEY WANT ME TO LITERALLY PUNCH THEM IN THE THROAT. I AM NOT A VIOLENT PERSON AND IT TAKES ALOT TO GET MY BLOOD BOILING BUT OOOOOOOHHHHHH!
AND ON TOP OF ALL THIS CRAP WE ARE PRETTY MUCH "LETTING" THESE NASTY HORRIBLE PEOPLE DO TO OUR CHILDREN, WE STILL ONLY SLAP THEM ON THE WRIST AND TELL EM BASICALLY " DON'T DO IT AGAIN NOW..." THE MAN THAT DID WHAT HE DID TO ME GOT 100 HOURS OF COMMUNITY SERVICE AND 2 YEARS OF PROBATION. REALLY! SO THAT IS ENOUGH FOR A MAN THAT HAS DONE SUCH HORRIBLE THINGS? LETS CUT OFF THEIR PENIS, LETS LET THEM FEEL HOW IT FEELS TO HAVE A BURDEN ON THEM LIKE I HAVE TO CARRY AROUND EVERY DAY! WHY CANT OUR GOVERNMENT DO SOMETHING MORE. SHOULDN'T THEY STEP UP AND SAVE THE CHILDREN?
SO HERE IS MY PROPOSAL. IF EVERY MOTHER WHO READS THIS WOULD WRITE A NOTE TO YOUR LOCAL CONGRESSMAN OR EVEN THE PRESIDENT, DEMANDING THAT WE STAND UP FOR OUR CHILDREN AND PROTECT THEM WE MAY GET SOME ANSWERS. I SAY WE PICK A HORRIBLE ISLAND AND SEND EVERY PEDOPHILE TO IT SO THEY CAN GET RAPED AND MOLESTED AND HURT AND DISRESPECTED LIKE SO MANY OTHERS HAVE!  

PS IF YOU ARE A PEDOPHILE READING THIS PLEASE DO ME A FAVOR AND GO JUMP OFF A CLIFF, OR HANG YOURSELF, OR DROWN YOURSELF OR SOMETHING SO I CAN FEEL A LITTLE BETTER ABOUT MY GIRLS BEING RAISED IN THIS DAY AND AGE. K THANKS AND HAVE A GREAT DAY!
OH AND PSS YOU TOUCH MY KIDS YOU DIE! END OF STORY! 

Friday, June 3, 2011

Some advice please.....

OK, I have realized something about my self that I'm not so happy about! I have realized I have a problem, a very serious problem that is causing me so much stress and grief that sometimes I feel very over whelmed. I have an overwhelming addiction to trying to make everyone happy! I know its impossible and I know it sounds ridiculous but I cannot help it! Its an addiction. I have to make sure everyone around me is happy and not "MAD" with me. Its something I struggle with on a daily basis.
     Here is the thing, no matter how hard I try I know I cannot make every single person happy in my life. I'm not a complete idiot (sometimes lol)! I just feel horrible when I make someone mad at me, or make them feel like I let them down. That is the most horrible feeling in the world. But, my biggest problem is actually that I get lost in all this chaos going on in my head! What I mean that I get lost is that I apparently lose who I am. I don't know what makes me happy any more. I know what makes every one else happy around me. My hubby, my kids, mom, dad, family, and friends. But where do I come in? When will it be my turn to be happy. Its so exhausting to be so busy trying to make everyone happy that it get so bad that I can honestly with my whole heart say I HAVE NO IDEA WHO I AM ANY MORE! Isn't that horrible. All I know is I am MOMMY and WIFEY and BEST FRIEND and DAUGHTER and what ever else you can think of. So does that mean that after I became a mother and wife that the TABATHA I thought I knew is gone? Is she some former self that I will never grasp again. WHO AM I?
I try every day to make each and every one of the people who are closest in my life happy! Whether its buying them something, or cowering down and acting like I'm just a door mat to walk all over. Either way it hurts now! I'm tired of making everyone else happy! WHEN IS IT MY TURN?
Now please don't get me wrong I in no way ever in a million years could ever regret or wish I never had my babies, or married my husband. They are what gets me through the day! I'm just asking, what do i do? Where do I go from here? I feel like I'm lost in a hurricane and cant find my way out.....
Thanks for listening to my rant!
<3 Tabatha